Tuesday, September 3, 2013

Life lessons I learned at a funeral

Last weekend, we celebrated the life of TL's cousin.  She passed away too soon, after only 45 years of life, leaving behind a husband and 3 young kids.  It's unfair and awful, and everyone there was questioning why.  But despite that, it was a time to celebrate her & her beautiful life.  This isn't the first funeral I have been to.  But something about it struck me.

One of the speakers gave an observation that I believe is related to a Ralph Waldo Emerson quote. It was something like this:


As I listened to each of these people share beautiful stories of her life and share the memories, and wonderful things about her... I realized the one thing about funerals that frustrates me and therefore is something I really hope for.  I hope the person who is being celebrated can hear the words being said about them.

It also made me realize that I need to do the best I can to tell the people in my life the things that I would say about them at their funeral.  That sounds morbid, but it's the truth.  The stories, the memories, the reasons why you are so thankful to have them in your life.  What you would miss about them if they were to not be in your life anymore.

Don't hold back.  Even if you feel silly.  Tell the people in your life how you feel.  Express your pride. Express your love.  You want them to know now.

It also makes me want to live a life where people would have good things to say at my funeral.

11 comments:

Laura {happily ever} Parker said...

I always think the same thing at funeral's - we say all these wonderful thing about people after they have passed. I too hope they can hear it. Our neighbor just passed away (same age and same # of children). Is she from Clayton by any chance?

Angelina Medina said...

It does sound morbid. I always think, what if this is the last time I see them? Is that the way I would want to say goodbye? I'm sure the answer will always be no.

I'll be sure and keep her husband and babies in my prayers. I can't even imagine their heartache.

Jenna said...

It's funny how we come to profound realisations when people close to us pass away. Everything you said here resonates with me - for some reason it's so difficult to tell people how you actually feel when they're right in front of you. And it's so important to put pride or shyness aside and let people know they are loved. It's something that I'm also working on :) xxx

Natasha said...

amen to this and i am so glad you posted...i pray for yalls family trying to get through this, but also at the fact that it seems like she is up in heaven smiling down on those closest to her!!

Lori said...

I do believe that those that have passed on are there for us ~ watching over us during times like this Tracy. I also tell people how I feel about them on a regular basis ~ I do not want to have any regrets when it comes to the people I care about. I think I learned the lesson the hard way when I lost my Dad so suddenly when he was much to young to go the way he did. Love that quote too. xo

Jenn @ Bliss to Bean said...

SO true. We could all be a little better at telling those around us, how much they truly mean, especially before it's too late. So sorry to hear of the loss...Hope you and your little family are well. xox

Nicole Marie said...

i'm so so sorry for your family's loss... i love this quote and definitely want to remember it xoxo

Caley-Jade Rosenberg said...

So so true my friend, we say the same things after every funeral. Live each day as if it were your last x

Cara Linn said...

Stumbled across this post today and it must have been fate. Two of my good childhood friends both lost their husband's last week in a car accident. Two amazing women became widows at 25. The whole situation has been heartbreaking and difficult. But all through the week, none of us could keep from talking about the joy and light both husbands had brought to the world. This quote was what my heart needed today. Thank you.

Mrs. Jones said...

True words! Thank you for sharing with us!

Crazy Shenanigans-JMO said...

I'm so sorry to hear about this! That quote is so true though!